FIED and TESTED!

If judging others constitute full time employment, most of the world is a well employed place 😄.

 

Fied ‘ can fall into these three buckets.

 

Qualified means that you have done the work, earned our trust and get invited to join us. You get a seat at the table. More than ever, our current technology and the lack of gatekeepers mean that your body of work could earn you the benefit of the doubt and give you a chance to speak up.

 

Disqualified is what happens when you over promise and under deliver. Or, if you expose intent that is not in alignment with what the rest of the world needs or expects.

 

Unqualified is rare. It’s at a premium. As in ” you have our unqualified support ” . Getting the benefit of the doubt long after most people would lost our trust is a hard-won privilege. It’s hard to earn unqualified support, but, if you do, make sure and be careful that you do not waste it.

 

The worrying trend is that too often even before we begin looking at skill, we’re judging people for other reasons. That’s wrong and wasteful as well. Being confused about what makes someone qualified or not perpetuates injustice.

 

That’s a race to the bottom.

 

“Judging others is easy because it distracts us from the responsibility of judging ourselves.”

 

Stop judging how far people still have to go. Start celebrating how far they’ve come.

 

 

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A Sorry Tale!

Sorry comes in two variants. Choice architecture anyone?

 

And often times, we ‘ miss the wood for the trees ‘.

 

I am sorry your dog died ” does not mean that you killed the dog. Not at all.

 

I am sorry I tripped you ” does mean that you tripped some one.

 

In creating connection and trying to make amends, we often get confused by the two kinds of sorry, and hence don’t apologize because we think that the problem wasn’t our fault.

 

The homepage of our relationship cannot be currently displayed because of a server error. Can we please click on the refresh button and start all over again? I am sorry “.

 

Sorry doesn’t take things back, but it pushes things forward. It bridges the gap. Sorry is a sacrament. It’s an offering. A gift.

 

One of the hardest things you may ever have to do in life is to deliver an apology. A true and sincere apology offers real regret and remorse for our actions, and carries a promise that we won’t do it again. It means acknowledging our faults, taking responsibility for the things we have done wrong, and opens a dialogue between two people. An apology, when correctly given and sincerely meant, can create deeper and more trusting relationships.

 

An apology is a good way to have the last word. And the first to move things forward. And make a relationship last.

 

The most important trip you may take in life is meeting people halfwayHenry Boye

 

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