It’s a beautiful place to begin with. Where you are being generously offered the ‘ benefit of the doubt ‘. The signal being sent out is that you deserve the chance or the opportunity and you will use your best bonafide intent to maximise the opportunity. It embarks on a place of belief and trust and there is no better arsenal at your disposal than these two if the idea is to make things better.
There are times when we feel that we deserve the benefit of the doubt but do not end up getting it. Sometimes it comes your away, when you least expect it. Its great when you earn it.
The rant here is to understand if we are working overtime when you are graciously offered the benefit of the doubt. Because it is cyclical. You can pay it forward. And then that goes to establish a ferris wheel of a culture echoing what goes around comes around. It is as Kevin Spacey said, “If you’re lucky enough to do well, it’s your responsibility to send the elevator back down “.
It is about choosing to believe the best about people. No better example than love which walks the walk on this. No filling in the blanks with negative assumptions and conveniently calibrated bias or prejudice. We will stand in good stead if we un-install the app called ‘ self doubt ‘ from our mind. Like charity begins at home, giving the benefit of the doubt can start with oneself.
There is a genuis and power within all of us. Don’t short change it by using the currency of doubt. You don’t have to assume the worst about everyone, either. The world isn’t always out to get you. And offering the benefit of doubt hardly costs us anything. Doubt and enquiry are proven pillars of progress.
“Doubt is a pain too lonely to know that faith is his twin brother.” Khalil Gibran