In our lives, many of us favor the comfort of conviction over the discomfort of truth.
We listen and lean towards opinions that make us feel good rather than ideas that will make us think hard.
We regard disagreement as a threat to our egos, rather than an opportunity to learn.
We, by design, surround ourselves with people who echo and endorse our thinking and beliefs, rather than gravitating toward those who challenge and question our thought process.
The result is that our beliefs get brittle long before our bones do.
Intelligence is no cure; in fact it can even be a curse( we have heard of ” Curse of Knowledge “, haven’t we? ).
There’s strong evidence that being good at thinking can make us sub optimal and worse at rethinking. The brighter we are, the more blinded and limited we become to our own thinking. We short change ourselves. Constantly.
We don’t have to believe everything we think and internalize everything we feel.
Give yourselves an invitation or permission to let go of views that are no longer serving you well. In lieu of that, prize mental flexibility, humility, and unabashed curiosity over foolish consistency.
There’s immense power in intentionally creating and opening the doors that accommodate you—instead of shrinking yourself in order to squeeze through whatever door happens to be there.
If knowledge indeed is power, then knowing what we don’t know is wisdom.
Once you’ve decided what you want from life, go off-menu. Ask for it. Create it.
Because the best things in life aren’t on the menu.