Caveat: This just might qualify to be a manifesto for all those tired of running someone else’s race.
Van Gogh sold exactly ONE painting during his lifetime. One. Singular. Uno.
Meanwhile, his contemporary, Adolf von Menzel, was swimming in commissions, critical acclaim, and royal patronage. Today? Most people need Google to remember Menzel’s name.
Talk about the universe’s wicked sense of humor.
Here’s What Actually Happens When You Compare
Your brain—magnificent organ that it is—wasn’t designed for the comparison casino. Evolution optimized us for small tribes, not scrolling through zillions of success stories before breakfast. Every comparison triggers your amygdala like a tiny fire alarm: “THREAT DETECTED. INADEQUACY IMMINENT.”
The result? You’re burning premium fuel (your attention, creativity, focus) on a rental car going nowhere.
The Friction of Fiction
That person you’re envying? They’re probably comparing themselves to someone else. It’s turtles all the way down. A recursive loop of manufactured inadequacy. A rabbit hole that goes only one way-south.
Here’s what makes it extra ridiculous: you’re comparing yourself to a person who doesn’t actually exist. You’re comparing yourself to your imagination of someone else’s experience. You’re essentially losing sleep over fan fiction you wrote about someone else’s life.
Wild, right?
What Winners Actually Do Instead
The people who break through? They’re not oblivious to others—they’re just religiously focused on their next move. Not their competitor’s last move. Not industry benchmarks. Not what “everyone is doing.”
Their energy flows here:
Iteration over imitation
Progress over perfection (or perception)
Their specific weird edge over generic excellence
Getting 1% better than yesterday’s version of themselves
Michael Jordan didn’t become Michael Jordan by trying to be Magic Johnson. He became Jordan by being unreasonably, almost obnoxiously committed to being better than yesterday’s Jordan.
The Rat Race Trap
We all do it. Colleague gets a fat promotion? You’re suddenly a loser in your own story. Neighbor’s kid aces IIT? Yours is “finding herself” via PUBG marathons. Classic trap.
Now scale it up: Elon Musk’s comparing his Mars dreams to your morning commute? Nah. Comparison ignores context, turning your unique grind into someone else’s highlight reel. Energy wasted: 100%.
The Mathematics of Misery
Comparison is not just theft of joy. It’s bad math. You are attempting to solve an equation with incompatible variables.
You are comparing your preface to someone else’s Chapter 11.
Your raw, behind-the-scenes footage to their carefully edited trailer.
Your entire, complex emotional landscape to their single, curated postcard.
The result is always an error message dressed up as anxiety. You’re trying to measure the weight of your soul with a ruler designed for flat-pack furniture.
So, How Do We Ditch This?
Deploy the So What?, Let Them Shield.
“They’re more successful.” So what?, Let Them. Does it take the taste from your morning coffee?
“They have a more luxurious life.”So what?, Let Them. Does it make your genuine laughter less real?
This simple, irreverent phrase defangs the comparison beast. It reveals the hollow core of most of our measuring contests.
Run Your Own Race. On a Different Track
Stop running their race. Better yet, stop running altogether for a moment. Be a gardener.Your only question: Is my plot more fertile today than yesterday? Did I plant one seed of progress, weed out one thought of self-sabotage? Growth, when measured against your own past self, is a silent, potent victory no measurement tool can quantify.
Comparison is the sneakiest way to abandon yourself
Your energy is the capital of your one wild and precious life. Spending it on comparison is like powering a spaceship with a potato battery. It’s a tragic, comical misuse of resources.
Put down the measuring stick. Pick up your chisel.Your masterpiece, with all its “flaws” and unique textures, is waiting. And it owes absolutely nothing to the sculpture taking shape next door.
The moment you stop comparing is the moment you start creating work that stands out. Because everybody else is busy copying, comparing, and conforming. Your unfair advantage is being weird, specific, and unapologetically you.
Your energy is finite. Spend it building, not benchmarking.
Think:If comparison truly worked, why does it leave you tired instead of better?
Energy Economics Anyone?
Energy is not infinite. It is capital.
When you compare, you spend it on:
Envy audits
Self doubt rehearsals
Mental courtroom dramas where you prosecute yourself relentlessly
None of this compounds.
Meanwhile, creation compounds quietly.
Focus compounds invisibly.
Consistency compounds mercilessly.
Comparison has a terrible ROI. It consumes premium energy and delivers discounted outcomes.
Some Reframing?
Instead of comparison, try calibration. Compare less. Calibrate more.
Calibrate against:
Your own last season
Your energy levels, not someone else’s output
Your values, not visible rewards
Your pace, not public timelines
Calibration sharpens. Comparison blunts.
Parting Thoughts
Comparison feels productive because it is busy. But busy is not brave.
Brave is choosing your lane and staying in it long enough to see what you become when no one else is used as reference material.
Your life is not a spreadsheet. Stop benchmarking it.