{"id":1116,"date":"2023-12-21T05:35:08","date_gmt":"2023-12-21T01:35:08","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.sureshdinakaran.com\/blog\/?p=1116"},"modified":"2023-12-21T05:35:08","modified_gmt":"2023-12-21T01:35:08","slug":"the-deficiencyidentity-syndrome","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.sureshdinakaran.com\/blog\/2023\/12\/21\/the-deficiencyidentity-syndrome\/","title":{"rendered":"The deficiency=identity syndrome!"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>If only we knew that learning something new is a default worth pursuing?<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Our beliefs and our actions are conjoined twins and almost inseparable. The former shapes the latter.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&#8221; I can never learn Spanish, I don&#8217;t have an ear for languages &#8220;.. &#8221; Risk taking and number crunching is not my forte, I can never be an entrepreneur &#8220;. Because such <span style=\"color: #ff0000;\"><em>thinking highlighting deficiencies is highly robust and powerfully self-reinforcing, they begin to become our identity.\u00a0<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>And because the belief is so deep rooted, you will do everything in your power to come in your own way and not learn and fail at learning the new language or embark on the journey of being a business person. Such self-sabotage acts as a virtual loop going back to strengthen the original belief. Time to realise that &#8216; <span style=\"color: #ff0000;\"><em>the obstacle is the way<\/em><\/span> &#8216;.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>As <em><span style=\"color: #ff0000;\">Emil Corian<\/span><\/em> quoted &#8221; Life is possible only by the deficiencies of our imagination and memory &#8220;.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-1117\" src=\"https:\/\/www.sureshdinakaran.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/12\/IDENTITY-CRY-CEASE.jpeg\" alt=\"\" width=\"2000\" height=\"2000\" \/><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;We are what we are because we have been what we have been.&#8221; &#8220;When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be.&#8221; &#8220;To become what one is, one must not have the faintest idea what one is.&#8221; &#8220;Self-knowledge is not knowledge but a story one tells about oneself.&#8221; These curated quotes from the likes of Sigmund Freud, Lao-Tzu, Friedrich Nietzsche &amp; Simone De Beauvoir, in that order, beautifully summarises the strong co relation between deficiency and identity.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Whenever two people meet, there are really six people present. There is each man as he sees himself, each man as the other person sees him, and each man as he really is.&#8221;-\u00a0<span style=\"color: #ff0000;\"><em><cite>William James<\/cite><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>ENDS<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>&nbsp; If only we knew that learning something new is a default worth pursuing? &nbsp; Our beliefs and our actions are conjoined twins and almost inseparable. The former shapes the latter. &nbsp; &#8221; I can never learn Spanish, I don&#8217;t have an ear for languages &#8220;.. &#8221; Risk taking and number crunching is not my &hellip; <a href=\"https:\/\/www.sureshdinakaran.com\/blog\/2023\/12\/21\/the-deficiencyidentity-syndrome\/\" class=\"more-link\">Continue reading<span class=\"screen-reader-text\"> &#8220;The deficiency=identity syndrome!&#8221;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1116","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.sureshdinakaran.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1116","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.sureshdinakaran.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.sureshdinakaran.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.sureshdinakaran.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.sureshdinakaran.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1116"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.sureshdinakaran.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1116\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1118,"href":"https:\/\/www.sureshdinakaran.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1116\/revisions\/1118"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.sureshdinakaran.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1116"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.sureshdinakaran.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1116"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.sureshdinakaran.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1116"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}